Help to cultivate a space where everyone is free to share their ideas, experiences, and thoughts by communicating with kindness and respect. Be supportive and encouraging, when you can, and report negative posts to yanique@yaniquebell.com. Here are some tips:

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If you experience a strong aversion to something shared in our space, check in with your personal biases before responding. If you had a similar lived experience, might you share the other perspective? When you connect to love and pure awareness, how do you wish to respond?

Notice when you're having a strong reaction to something said in our community. These are triggers and are linked to deeper woundings and personal trauma. When we respond from our triggers, we are no longer seeing the other person or situation clearly. Be mindful of your triggers and create space to self-soothe, regulate your nervous system, and investigate your trigger. Be gentle with yourself when you respond from a triggered place and make amends to other members in the group you may have harmed. 

If you can't relate to someone or can't see why they would think a certain way or make a certain choice, I invite you to simply listen and witness. If you're curious, you can ask clarifying questions and explore or research on your own. Remember, we are here simply to encourage and hold space for our fellow community members. You don't have to agree with or understand everyone and everything. Relax into the heart of the community and be a space where all aspects of our humanity is welcomed and loved.

Because most of us are accustomed to living in sex-negative communities, we have conscious and unconscious shame, disgust, and disapproval of various sexual expressions until we consciously choose to heal and embrace sex as natural, beautiful, delightful, and sacred. Commit to your shame healing and notice when you are projecting shame, disgust, or disapproval. Use this as an opportunity to investigate your own sexual programming - is it your authentic preference? Is it based in love? Is it a celebration of pleasure? Or is it something else...? Be curious and take time for self-inquiry.

While it can be tempting and many of us are habituated to wanting to "fix" things for those we care about, remember that our community space is primarily for sharing, celebrating, encouraging, and witnessing. Please refrain from offering unsolicited advice or guidance. If you are unclear if a member is asking for advice or not, ask if they would like the guidance you have to offer.

If you would like some advice and support from the group, intentionally request it. For example, state, "I would love some advice on...?" "Does anyone know more about...?" "What is everyone's thoughts on...?" "I've been struggling with... can anyone help me...?"

In Community Live Calls, we're deeply healing and expanding our capacity for bliss, love, and expansive living through body awareness, pleasure, spirituality, and intimacy. To maintain the integrity of the group and our shared Community Goal, please keep your posts and comments relevant to these topics.

Self-promotion, spam and irrelevant links are not allowed.

If you have a professional event or offer that is on-topic, please reach out to me directly at yanique@yaniquebell.com and I will consider sharing it with the group in our next community email or live call.

Being part of our community requires mutual trust. Authentic, expressive discussions make our community great, but may also be sensitive and private. What's shared in our community should stay in our community.

Respect the personal boundaries of your fellow members and remember to speak your own boundaries. Our community may offer opportunities to make lifelong friends and meaningful connections, but please know you do not need to be in close relationship with anyone or everyone in this group. Engage in our community to the extent that it feels good to you. Trust your instincts and build trust over time.

Make sure everyone feels safe. Bullying of any kind isn't allowed, and degrading comments about things like race, religion, culture, sexual orientation, gender or identity will not be tolerated.

The Yanique Bell Community Space is home to members of various age groups, professions, religions, spiritual world views, genders, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, sexual preferences, cultures, and identities. This diversity in ideas and identities makes our community rich and vibrant. There is magic within our diversity - please help to protect our community and keep it a safe space for all by honoring your fellow members in these ways:

Remember other members are here for the same reason you are - to make meaningful connections and experience expansive pleasure. They are not here to answer your questions or educate you. Join us in celebrating and witnessing every member and you will naturally learn more about other experiences unlike your own. However, if you are curious about a specific demographic or lived experience, take the initiative and do your own research.

Understand that some topics and discussions are emotionally draining, intrusive, and time-consuming for some members. You may think that something is a small ask, but if you are not informed, you may be unintentionally moving into a sensitive topic. Attune to your fellow members and notice when your questions are causing discomfort or burden. Doing your own research will help to honor the time, spatial, and emotional boundaries of other members and maintain the safety and bliss of our space.

Remember that the aspects of your identity that are the most important to you (i.e. being a woman or man or gender non-conforming, your race, your sexual orientation, etc.) may not be the aspect of identity that is the most important for another member. Just because you have a shared subgroup, does not mean you have the same lived experience. For example, being a lesbian and Black can be very different from being a lesbian and Asian. Remember to honor the diversity, even within your subgroup.