This might just be one of the most liberating episodes I’ve ever recorded… I’m so excited to share this message with you! Porn used to be one of the main sources of my sexual shame growing up. To be able to reclaim and embrace it, both privately and now publicly with you, sweet Goddess, feels totally liberating. Through recording alone, I felt some of the old stories and constriction around porn that I’ve still been carrying release. If this is resonating with you, in this episode of the Woman Gone Wild Podcast, you’ll be learning how to release shame around porn and a conscious approach to porn that will light your pussy up š
Spiritual Slut Shaming
Like I said, my relationship with porn used to be an area of so much shame for me. And it didn’t stop when I started teaching on pleasure and Tantra. Even in “spiritual” and “sex positive” communities, there are sublime messages of purity and sin that say it’s only “spiritual” or “right” to experience your sexuality in very specific ways.
In this episode, I’m calling bullshit.
YOU get to decide what works for you and your desires. Goddess, it’s time to stop putting everyone else’s truth (INCLUDING MINE) above your own.
Before You Listen
That’s why I broke this conversation up into two parts.
Before listening to this episode, head back to episode 34 – Reclaiming & Releasing Porn and align with YOUR unique truth around porn.
How to Release Shame Around Porn
We’ll also be taking a sweet dive into shame and how to work with and embrace your shame around porn so you can create a feeling of true freedom in your nervous system.
Cause here’s the inside scoop: Shame is an ally and guardian of pleasure. The perspective shift you’re receiving in this episode is life-changing.
Even though we think we’re a hedonistic society, we’re really just hooked on shame and guilt spirals. You can’t experience true pleasure, until you walk through the doorway of shame and really relish in that forbidden fruit (this is in contrast to standing in the shame doorway, never taking a step inside, and blocking any magic from coming through).
Ugh, this episode is soooo good. What are you waiting for? Dive in!
Exploring Ethical Porn
Whoops! Almost forgot! So, like I said, in the process of recording, I was able to release shame I was personally still holding onto. Post-production, I started looking up conscious porn sites and discovered the world of ETHICAL PORN.
Like how did I not know this was a thing for so long???
I’m literally so freaking excited to explore these new sites and not have to do so much filtering on the more mainstream sites. Thank the Goddess for feminist porn!
It just goes to show how when we’re sooo wrapped up in our shame story, we typically can’t see all the possibilities. I hope that you’ll not only learn how to release your shame around porn in this episode, but also how to have profound compassion for yourself and your journey, so you can open up to a whole new way of relating with and celebrating your sexuality.
So, here’s an article from Bustle that I found with some sexy ethical porn sites: Check them out! After you’ve listened to this week’s episode, go explore and have fun!
(P.S. Once I’ve tried a few of them out, I think I’ll make another episode on my experience! And I would love to hear yours too! Be sure to drop me a line or get in touch on Insta and let me know how your ethical porn adventure went!)
Inside the Episode
- Why “getting rid of shame” isn’t the answer
- Spiritual slut shaming and how to stay sexually empowered and centered in the spiritual community
- How to transform shame and embrace your authentic desire for porn
- Addressing porn dependency with compassion and acceptance
- Examples of how I consciously use porn in my journey
- 5 Steps to Consciously Use Porn for Sexual Awakening & Liberation
- How to discern when it’s NOT aligned to use porn
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Reclaiming & Releasing Porn – 034
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How to Hear Your Pussy’s Voice – 018
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